cocolexilocs:

metalgender:

cocolexilocs:

howtobeterrell:

strippedsoul:

These hormones are getting to Olivia. I was LIVID 

It was really NOT her place to tell him that

But his wife really should of told him instead of being pissed that he wasn’t understanding why she was being frigid

You’re disgusting.

I just meant she was upset with him for not understanding why she was being the way she was and in general you can’t get mad at a person for not understanding if you don’t communicate. Yes he was in the wrong for cheating but once he learned what happened he sympathized. I know it’s a hard thing to not just put out there but the person who committed the act was dead and he had a bad relationship with his dad so idk when would have been a good time

I don’t care that he cheated?  Honestly, on the list of things Fitz has done wrong, cheating is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay low on my list.

I care that you’re putting blame on a rape victim for not telling about her rape and I care that you’re implying that a rape victim who is bothered by being touched and can’t have sex is ‘frigid.’  And honestly, people should always be understanding of someone not wanting to be touched, it shouldn’t require knowing about their trauma.

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posted 1 day ago (® sansastarklives)

keepitmovinshawty:

Because from where I’m sitting, I’ve seen Jake physically abuse Olivia twice, once putting her in the hospital.

But I guess abuse on Scandal only happens when Mellie is holding her mouth open looking sad after Fitz said something deemed “mean.”

FOH

They’re both abuse (not all the times w/ Fitz and Mellie, but yeah, him shaming her for not being able to be touched after she was raped is abuse), and I don’t understand why emotional abuse has to be trivialized for physical abuse to not be.

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posted 6 days ago (® keepitmovinshawty)
mockingjayy said,
"How the fuck does Carrie sleeping with around 3-4 guys during the curse of 3 SEASONS make her a nymphomaniac??? No one should be called a whore but at least do your research"

wthscandal:

I usually don’t answer asks publicly but for you I will make an exception…

1) A person clinically diagnosed as hyper-sexual (or nymphomaniac) is NOT a term of degradation. It’s recognised as a disorder. And is a MEDICAL term NOT a SLUR.

2) It is COMMON for hypersexuality to manifest itself in the manic periods of BIPOLAR DISORDER sufferers LIKE Carrie Mathison.

3) Thus it’s not an unreasonable or baseless term for Carrie’s sexual behaviour. ESPECIALLY given Carrie has been characterised as having SIGNIFICANT MANIC swings in 3 seasons.

4) I know this, because I’ve done my “research” as I’m a fan of Homeland. In fact, I am/was a fan of ALL 3 shows, thus did not give the labels inconsiderately.

5) As you are incapable of critical thinking, and making a rational and educated comment on my observation, I will spell it out for you…This is a COMPARATIVE COMMENTARY on WOMEN’S SEXUAL AGENCY. Visual aids were used as a SIMPLE "One is not like the other". I’ll let you think about that…

Now run along Foxface, you are no Katniss.

Apart from the fact that “nymphomaniac” has been used as a slur in the past, being hypersexual due to bipolar disorder would not be dxed as “nymphomania,” it’d be dxed as bipolar disorder.  Also I reject the proposition that medical terms cannot be slurs.  Examples: r*tarded, idiot moron, hysteric, and imbecile were all considered medical terms at one time.

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posted 6 days ago (® wthscandal)

greekgodsforsocialjustice:

Do you know the percentage of self diagnoses that are actually right?

That is actually a very, very good question! Thanks for asking.

In America alone:

35 percent of the US self diagnose

Most people — 82 percent — start searching using search engines like Google, Bing and Yahoo. Thirteen percent went straight to a website that focuses on health information like WebMD, and only two percent used Wikipedia. One percent relied on Facebook and other social networks.

Women were more likely to search the Internet for their health condition, as well as younger people and white adults. In addition, those who live in households earning $75,000 or more and those with a college degree or advanced degree went online to look up whtat they had.

Out the people who said they went online to help find out what they or someone else was suffering from, 46 percent said what they found online led them to believe they needed help from a medical professional. Another 38 percent said they thought they could treat it at home, and 11 percent say it was in between.

However, less than half — 41 percent — said that a doctor confirmed the diagnosis they made from online research. Thirty-five percent said they did not seek a professional opinion, and 18 percent said the medical professional or clinician did not agree with what they thought or had a different opinion about their condition.

Only 1 percent of those diagnosed said talking to a medical professional was “inconclusive.”

Less than half of the 35% of the US population that self-diagnose get it right. It also doesn’t help that 35% out of the 35% population that self diagnose don’t even receive a professional opinion.

–Athena

A doctor not confirming a self diagnosis doesn’t make it wrong.  Based on these numbers, only “18 percent said the medical professional or clinician did not agree with what they thought.”  Even this isn’t clear proof that the person’s self-diagnosis was wrong, but the fact that you’re counting not being able to see a professional as ultimately wrong is just bad reading of statistics.

Also, this survey only uses the term “medical condition” and therefore also includes illnesses such as the flu or a cold…  And yeah, people are gonna do minimal research on a flu or a cold, and they’re more likely to be wrong due to the lack of research or information.  They’re going to often not go to the doctors, because neither of these are particularly serious for most people.  These illnesses are also incredibly common, so they’re going to greatly impact the data.  Consequently, it’s pretty hard to draw any conclusions from this data on chronic conditions, without separating out chronic conditions from the data (something that cannot be done because of the way the survey was created).  

Another interesting but poorly thought out part of this survey involves this question:

Did a medical professional confirm what you thought the condition was with a medical diagnosis, did they offer a different medical opinion or diagnosis, or did you not visit a  doctor or other medical professional for a diagnosis?
Based on online health seekers who have gone online to figure out what medical condition they or someone
else might have [N=1,003]

How could someone who looked online to find out about someone else’s condition go to the doctors FOR the other person?  Consequently, at least some of the 35% is likely to have answered that way because they had answered the other question based on looking online for information about another person’s diagnosis, not their own.

It would also be important to sort out diagnosing others from diagnosing oneself, as the survey question asks, “Have you ever gone online specifically to try to figure out what medical condition you or someone else might have?,” and half of the results were apparently on behalf of someone else.

Also, a piece of information that was omitted: "Fully three-quarters of people who have health insurance consulted a doctor or other health care professional, compared with half (49%) of the uninsured."   We still can’t know anything about whether or not these conditions were chronic,which I think is a huge missing piece considering that most people I have seen who were angry at self-diagnosis were not angry about it in the context of temporary illnesses such as the cold or the flu.  But, it is important that insured people are much more likely to seek a medical professional after making an online diagnosis.

tldr; it’s hard to glean anything from this survey.

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posted 1 week ago (® greekgodsforsocialjustice)

friskk:

if i get any messages saying “If you have a diagnosis from a doctor, that is a privilege” i’ll fucking punch you.

no it’s not a fucking privilege. i have three mental illnesses, confirmed by a psychologist and a psychiatrist. having to go to therapy three times a week is not a privilege. knowing one of them is incurable is not a privilege.

stop fucking self diagnosing for fucks sake i hate you all

It’s not a privilege in and of itself, but not for the reasons you’re giving???

I have undiagnosed PTSD, as well as professionally dxed bipolar disorder i w/ psychotic features.  I’ve also been professionally dxed with social anxiety, general anxiety, panic disorder, ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, an eating disorder, and alcohol dependency.  The only one of those I feel as if I still have is autism spectrum disorder and possibly general anxiety.  Some of them I feel I never had.

The point being, don’t fucking act like my life is so easy because I was forced to self diagnose my PTSD.

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posted 1 week ago (® friskk)
http://holy-crap-scandal.tumblr.com/post/81095692318/okay-lets-be-clear-about-something-fitz

holy-crap-scandal:

nothingaboutus-withoutus:

holy-crap-scandal:

nothingaboutus-withoutus:

holy-crap-scandal:

Okay, let’s be clear about something:

Fitz falling in love with Olivia was not what destroyed his marriage with Mellie! If people would watch the past two seasons, they would SEE and REMEMBER, their marriage was dead BEFORE Olivia came into the picture. I’ve seen some comments about how it’s…

if by asking Mellie, you mean screaming at her while trying to touch her

knew someone was going to say this. He wasn’t yelling through the /whole/ scene, and even during his yells, he was showing genuine concern. And you know what? I would be frustrated too. He is worried about his wife, scared something is wrong and he is blaming /himself/. He is angry with himself thinking he did something wrong and he wants to make it right. He is asking her, begging to know what is wrong and even trying to gently touch her in a loving way, but she just pushes and pulls away, so he has a right to be upset. Especially since he doesn’t know what happened. So don’t give me the “but he was yelling” because he has a right and he was also showing genuine concern. Not only that, but we don’t always see everything so I’m sure before that scene, he was still asking. Because with this scene, it was as if it was a continuation of him asking and being concerned.

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Oh yeah, sounds like genuine concern, lmao

"Why won’t you let me touch you? You’re my wife, but you won’t let me touch you. You sure as hell won’t sleep with me. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?"

He made it all about him and how he wanted sex, there was no concern there.

It actually is. You can see the pain in his eyes and see it in his voice. But of course he is mad and frustrated. He cares enough to ask and he tries the gentles of touched, which is not a sexual touch, and she pulls away and continues to lie to him. He has every right to be upset at this point because clearly, he has been showing concern and trying to find out what’s wrong. Not to mention, just the other day they were happy together and now this is happening, now she is keeping him at a distance all of a sudden and won’t tell him why, so, again, he has a right to be confused, upset and hurt.

People believe he is a bad President because we haven’t /seen/ him do a lot of Presidential stuff, so I believe he has shown her more concern (which is obvious because the way he asks is obviously a continuation as asking more before), but haters won’t believe that, so no use in trying to make/help them.

It’s not ok to touch people without their consent even when you’re mad and frustrated.

And nah, he doesn’t look concerned in the other gifs.  He looks annoyed.

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posted 2 weeks ago (® holy-crap-scandal)
http://holy-crap-scandal.tumblr.com/post/81095692318/okay-lets-be-clear-about-something-fitz

holy-crap-scandal:

nothingaboutus-withoutus:

holy-crap-scandal:

Okay, let’s be clear about something:

Fitz falling in love with Olivia was not what destroyed his marriage with Mellie! If people would watch the past two seasons, they would SEE and REMEMBER, their marriage was dead BEFORE Olivia came into the picture. I’ve seen some comments about how it’s…

if by asking Mellie, you mean screaming at her while trying to touch her

knew someone was going to say this. He wasn’t yelling through the /whole/ scene, and even during his yells, he was showing genuine concern. And you know what? I would be frustrated too. He is worried about his wife, scared something is wrong and he is blaming /himself/. He is angry with himself thinking he did something wrong and he wants to make it right. He is asking her, begging to know what is wrong and even trying to gently touch her in a loving way, but she just pushes and pulls away, so he has a right to be upset. Especially since he doesn’t know what happened. So don’t give me the “but he was yelling” because he has a right and he was also showing genuine concern. Not only that, but we don’t always see everything so I’m sure before that scene, he was still asking. Because with this scene, it was as if it was a continuation of him asking and being concerned.

http://25.media.tumblr.com/99ef829bdb83cd074f8e9844ca6413fb/tumblr_n226dtc84h1remr5vo8_250.gif

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Oh yeah, sounds like genuine concern, lmao

"Why won’t you let me touch you?  You’re my wife, but you won’t let me touch you.  You sure as hell won’t sleep with me. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?"

He made it all about him and how he wanted sex, there was no concern there.

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posted 2 weeks ago (® holy-crap-scandal)
http://vileghosts.tumblr.com/post/81078411344/its-amusing-to-me-how-gothlalonde-accuses-me-of

vileghosts:

nothingaboutus-withoutus:

vileghosts:

It’s amusing to me how gothlalonde accuses me of being privileged enough to be diagnosed when I was diagnosed against my will after being admitted to a psych ward for attempted suicide that my ex boyfriend’s mother called the ambulance for and that I still have not received any type of treatment…

it’s not a clear cut privilege thing, you’re correct there.  however, a lot of people who are anti-self diagnosis ARE privileged monetarily and have not experienced the medical abuse i have experienced.   your diagnosis did not come from a place of privilege, but your beliefs seem to come from a strange “i went through all these horrible things to get my diagnoses, so others should go through the same horrible things to get their diagnoses.”  which is bullshit, no one should have to go through horrible things just to figure out what is wrong with them.  if self-diagnosing is the safest or only option for someone, then who are you to deny them that option?

1. There is no correlation between privilege and views on self diagnosis and whatever bull shit statistics you want to pull from your ass based on maybe 2 people you’ve talked to. It most certainly isn’t sufficient to justify attacking me like a damn fool about shit you know nothing about.

2. There is literally nowhere where I said people should go through a terrible experience to get diagnosis, are you fucking illiterate? This is what I literally have said every fucking time bitch:

Self diagnosis is harmful. I listed why. I gave resources. Trusting a trained professional is always going to be smarter than trusting someone who isn’t qualified. Second opinions are always necessary. Psychological damage cannot be diagnosed the way physical damage is. Seeing a doctor make a mistake does not all of a sudden make you qualified to diagnose yourself or others.

Now where in any of my points did I fucking say that you had to go through what I did to get your diagnosis? Hm bitch?

Don’t come for me if you aren’t going to actually read, this ain’t your damn English lit class and I will curse your ass out.

1.  i never gave statistics???? i’m talking about at least 50 people, not 2 people, but i’ve never counted.  also “a lot” isn’t attempting to make a correlation, it’s just saying that there are a large number.  and i’m also not attacking you, i was nice as fuck, and here you are calling me a “damn fool” and calling me gendered slurs.

2. most of the resources you gave were OPINIONS just like anything else.  they weren’t even from reputable sources.  and no, trusting a trained professional isn’t always going to be better than trusting someone who isn’t qualified.  i’ve been misdiagnosed by professionals who i told that i didn’t feel the diagnosis they were giving me fit me at all, only to later have that diagnosis taken back by other medical professionals.  ive had doctors mis-medicate me and send me ultradian cycling because they refused to listen to me.  how were their misdiagnoses more qualified than my perception of my disorders, which ended up being actually right.  

3. for me, self diagnosing is less dangerous than going to see a professional.  fuck off.

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posted 2 weeks ago (® vileghosts)
http://vileghosts.tumblr.com/post/81078411344/its-amusing-to-me-how-gothlalonde-accuses-me-of

vileghosts:

It’s amusing to me how gothlalonde accuses me of being privileged enough to be diagnosed when I was diagnosed against my will after being admitted to a psych ward for attempted suicide that my ex boyfriend’s mother called the ambulance for and that I still have not received any type of treatment…

it’s not a clear cut privilege thing, you’re correct there.  however, a lot of people who are anti-self diagnosis ARE privileged monetarily and have not experienced the medical abuse i have experienced.   your diagnosis did not come from a place of privilege, but your beliefs seem to come from a strange “i went through all these horrible things to get my diagnoses, so others should go through the same horrible things to get their diagnoses.”  which is bullshit, no one should have to go through horrible things just to figure out what is wrong with them.  if self-diagnosing is the safest or only option for someone, then who are you to deny them that option?

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posted 3 weeks ago (® vileghosts)
Anonymous said,
"If you tell a school counselor you were raped do they have to tell your parents?"

selfcareafterrape:

I’m not 100% certain, but I think so. I think all school employees are mandatory reporters. at least when you’re a minor.

In college I don’t think so? but almost definitely in high school and younger.

in some places, college employees are mandatory reporters.  you’ll have to look up the law where you live to know that, although its a bit hard to find.  however, if someone is over 18 they wouldn’t have to tell your parents.  and they’ll definitely only have to tell for people over 18 if it’s an ongoing situation.  that might also apply to minors too, they might only have to tell if it’s an ongoing situation where a minor is still in danger, but i’m not sure.

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posted 3 weeks ago (® selfcareafterrape)

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